Breakups are never easy, whether it's a romantic partner or a close friend. I've been there—one day you're inseparable, sharing secrets and inside jokes, and the next, you're more like strangers who occasionally 'like' each other's posts on social media.
Friendships can fade naturally over time, or sometimes they explode in a spectacular fashion that leaves both sides feeling raw. It's surprising how much it stings like discovering your favorite coffee shop has closed its doors for good. Some experts say that losing a friend can hit harder than losing a partner, and I can vouch for that firsthand. When my best friend and I went our separate ways, it felt like the ground had shifted beneath me, and no amount of ice cream or Netflix marathons could fill that void.
Signs you’re headed for a friend breakup
Best Life, a lifestyle magazine, teamed up with a relationship expert to put together a list of signs that your friendship might be on the rocks.
Friends are the ones we turn to for stress relief, where we can be our true selves. But if you find yourself feeling anxious or uneasy when your friend calls or before you meet up, their expert suggests it's a sign that shouldn't be ignored. “If you're finding yourself hitting the ignore button or finding excuses to not get together, it's a good sign the relationship is no longer benefitting you," they said.
Another sign on their list is a breach of trust. We all make mistakes, and trust can occasionally be broken, but if a friend is gossiping about you or sharing your private information after you’ve asked them not to, it could be a warning that a breakup is on the horizon.
This sign may hit home for many. In healthy relationships, there's usually a fair balance—whether it’s hosting a wine night or taking turns with the carpool. But as friendships start to unravel, you might feel like the weight of responsibility is shifting more onto your shoulders.
According to their expert, "If you're the one who is always initiating the texts or making plans, it might begin to feel like a very one-sided relationship." However, she also cautions not to overlook the normal movement and flow of relationships. "There are times when you might be putting more into the relationship than your friend, or vice versa," the expert added. "But in the end, it’s about the big picture—knowing that your investment in the friendship is still benefitting you.”
Some other signs include not feeling good around them, superficial conversations, no longer sharing life events, constant criticism, and others.
Check out more signs that point towards a friend breakup here.
